كيف تتحدث مع الشخص الخجول How to Talk to a Shy Person

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Approach in a non-threatening manner, with a , . Try to , but don't expect them to reciprocate, since looking someone in the eye can be very difficult for a shy person.

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. It's generally better to avoid asking about their personal life right away, so try focusing on something related to the current location or activity. Ask what they think about different things that come up in the conversation. Try to avoid yes/no questions. Instead of "Did you like the new movie?" ask "What did you think of ..." After covering other topics, it may be more acceptable to ask what their favorite things to do are.

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. It may take some time to get the full answer, so don't be afraid of a little silence. Prompting, such as "go on," or "what are you thinking?" will not help and will likely make them nervous. You should also generally avoid finishing their sentences when they pause momentarily. They may want to articulate their thoughts in a particular way, so give them enough time to do so.

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to their answers and give positive feedback, such as, "That's an interesting way of looking at it! I never saw it that way." Be sure to give feedback between questions, communicating your thoughts and ideas on the subject as well. Shy people sometimes get overwhelmed when energetic people ask question after question in interview-like fashion; besides, they want to know what you're thinking, too!

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Look for topics that seem to engage your friend. You would be surprised at how much "shy" people can blabber once you get them onto a topic they care about.

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Make them feel comfortable with you so they will trust you. Avoid making jokes at the expense of shy people, unless you are sure they will enjoy it. On the other hand, ; many shy people may feel flattered in a nervous way when someone who interests them them. You should also avoid asking them why they are shy. There is no good answer to this, and it will probably make them uncomfortable.

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Invite them to do something with you. If you have discovered an activity that they enjoy, or have one in mind that you think they would appreciate, ask them if they would be interested in meeting with you (and possibly a few of your friends) later for that activity. It may be that the shy person prefers doing things rather than talking about them.

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Express a positive impression of interacting with them. When it's time for you to part, and let them know that you appreciate talking with them. You may want to tell them that they are welcome to talk with you and your friends anytime, but be aware that they will be much more likely to seek one-on-one conversations with you, at least initially. It is best to choose complimentary parting words ; if you seem insincere, they may feel discouraged rather than uplifted.